Oral Sex Tricks

Introduction

There are a lot of reasons you could have chosen this article: Are you struggling to please your man? Do you want to know how to leave him begging for more? Are you new to blojobs and want to learn more before you start? Regardless of your reasoning, there are many things you can do to make blowjobs more pleasurable for him and for you as well.

The very first thing to do is to observe. Of course, you should be watching how your partner acts to seduce you in the first place before you start to think about the blowjob. Is he a dominant type? If so, put yourself in a position in which you are under him or he can look down on you, such as kneeling. Is he a submissive type? Get on top of him while he is tied down, or tell him he can’t look at you while you do it.

Figuring out what your partner likes is always the first step in anything having to do with sex. Ask them about their masturbation and porn habits- what do they like about blowjobs or handjobs? Get to know what they think they might want to try or experience.

If your partner likes more attention on their shaft, or wants to try prostate simulation, that’s something to take into consideration for when you’re giving your partner oral sex. It would also be good if you communicated ideas that you had for oral sex with your partner, because no one likes a surprise finger up their butt!

When starting oral sex, make sure that you’re not just jumping right into deepthroating. This can turn your partner off. Tease your partner by kissing slowly down to their member or by licking around the penis, but not necessarily giving head. This will make your partner become more aroused so that they are more likely to be engaged in what you are about to do next.

From here, it’s important to remember a few things: make noises, like moaning and dirty talk, remember what your partner communicated to you, and try new things. Listen to the feedback your partner is giving you in the moment: if they’re moaning, then keep doing what you’re doing because you’re doing something right.

If you want to switch things up, you can try putting your whole body into it by laying on top of your partner or using your hands to massage their thighs and calves. If you’re looking for some stimulation yourself, encourage your partner to play with your nipples or clitoris. This will not only turn you on more (and therefore making your oral sex more enthusiastic) but also turn your partner on.

Overall, if you’re enthusiastic about pleasing your partner and making sure that you are giving them the best head you can, then it will be pleasurable for them. Make sure you communicate and are open to their wants and needs, and vice versa, and I’m sure you’ll have a great time.

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How to Do Wax Play

Introduction

Hot wax is a very accessible and easy way to bring kinkier sex into your daily life, without feeling like you’re going over the top. It is well known that adding in more sensations, whether that be through sight smell or sound, can be very beneficial in the sack.

Wax play uses the hot temperature to stimulate your nerves, while also being relaxing and sensual, so it can be a great place to start if you’re looking to bring more excitement in the bedroom. After all, 50% of American’s want to try BDSM in some form or another, so might as well start somewhere!

The first thing to know when starting wax play is that you can’t just use any old candle from your kitchen cupboards. It is important to make sure that you’re using safe and meant-for-sex candles when initiating wax play, especially when first starting out.

If you don’t use the correct candles, it can result in second degree burns, scarring, or even a trip to the hospital. That will definitely ruin your sexy time!

When using a candle, you also need to account for wait time. After first lighting the candle, it is best to wait thirty minutes before using it, as this will make sure that the candle’s wax burns easily through and does not all sit on one side, which will make it harder to use the next time.

Soy candles are the best way to go, and in fact most massage candles for wax play are made of soy. Soy is one of the best materials because once you blow it out it takes about 30 minutes for the candle to harden again, which means that you have plenty of time to use it before you would need to light it again.

Make sure that you remember to never put the wax inside you or your partner, as this can cause serious infections and even burns on more sensitive areas. The massage candles can be best used in areas such as the neck and shoulders, where rubbing the wax in might feel good to you or your partner.

Another idea is to use the soy candles for a foot massage, as soy is known to smoothen skin and help with relaxation. It’s a great way to start or end sex with your partner!

After you’re finished with the wax play, you might be wondering how to get the wax off. Usually, the massage candles are made from materials that will easily blend into your skin, so massaging them in usually gets rid of the wax. You can also wait for a few minutes until it soaks in, as it is safe to use and really beneficial for moisturizing.

If you’re worried about getting your sheets dirty, you can hop in the shower and do a quick rinse with some body soap before continuing with your partner. This can also be a great way to continue foreplay!

So what are you waiting for? Get that candle lit and get started!

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Asking Your Partner for Kinky Sex

Introduction

If you are wanting to have more exciting sex, and you still need to communicate to your partner, you might be wondering how to initiate that conversation. It can be hard to talk to your partner about sex, especially when you are talking about things that you want to try differently or more often.

How do I Bring it Up?

It might be hard, but you need to bring up the topic of trying kinky sex in a neutral place before sex is initiated. This can alleviate any of the pressure midsex, and instead let your partner know that you’re just thinking about the new things that you can try to make sex more enjoyable for both of you.

If you are struggling to bring kinky sex up in casual conversation before having sex with your partner, try to take a questionairre together or play a game together that involves learning more about your sexual preferences. This can make it so the barrier surrounding sex is already broken, and you are instead focused on making your partner happy, and vice versa.

Tips for Talking

Be sensitive to your partner’s feelings, as they might start feeling insecure about the performance they’re putting on in bed, when in reality there’s nothing wrong with what they’re doing now, you just want to try something new.

That being said, make sure not to also make it only about what you want. Ask your partner if they have fantasized about anything that they’ve wanted in bed, and talk about the possibility of doing that in addition to kinky sex.

This also makes sure that your partner knows their fantasies matter too, and that they are being communicated with and listened to. If your partner wants to try something new in bed as well, maybe you can make a compromise so that you can both accomplish your fantasies while still not jumping out of your comfort zone.

You also need to focus on your tone when bringing up this conversation, because your partner might not be prepared for the topic and might be worried they’re in trouble or not doing well when having sex.

You don’t want to make your partner feel like you’re angry with them, or upset with your sex life now. This can turn the conversation into a different one, so making sure that you have a positive or neutral tone of voice can alleviate the stress of possible conflict.

While it can be difficult to talk to your partner about kinky sex, it can be beneficial for you and your partner to start the conversation slowly and confidently so that your sex can be the same. If you talk to your partner and find that they are not open to kinky sex, talk about alternatives so that both of you can feel satisfied while still gaining pleasure from sex in ways that you both enjoy.

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